The morning has been largely taken up with telephone calls. Few of them were remotely interesting to me, being social, business or car-related ones for the Sage, but the one I received on my mobile was considerably more engaging. Wink rang me, in part to tell me that Auntie Dodo, our mother’s oldest friend (they met over 70 years ago) who is aged 99 has just gone into a residential home for some respite care. She lives alone but her only bathroom is upstairs so it’s not that easy for her to manage – the staircase is quite unsuitable for a stairlift. We’re not sure if she’ll be able to go back home, or not for long – Wink will keep me posted. She’s Wink’s godmother, we’ve known her all our lives and she’s very dear to us.
The second matter is that the younger sister of the girl whose wedding we went to in Madras ten years ago is getting married in April. Wink is invited of course, but she said she can’t go and wondered if I might. I said I’d be too busy – but I did tell the Sage about it when he arrived home. His immediate reaction was to encourage me to go, even if it is on my own. I’ve phoned Wink back, she’s thinking about it too now. It’s Easter Sunday, and she’s been invited to London for the Hockney exhibition and other things, tickets already bought, and she’ll probably have some work offered too … all the same, we’re both very tempted and we’re thinking about it. We’d both love to go. We’ll speak again on Monday and then, if she’s considering it, she’ll speak to her friend. I’ve said that I’ll sleep on it and make up my own mind – that is, my decision won’t hinge on hers and I won’t put her under the pressure of saying I’ll only go if she will.
I love India and haven’t been for several years. We’d have to be based in Madras – which I should really call Chennai nowadays – and not fit in an extra trip this time which is a pity as I’d dearly love to visit my friend How Do We Know in Delhi – but this would count as an impulsive extra and there’s no reason why I shouldn’t go oop north another time. I’m still undecided. However, a single encouraging comment might tip the balance. Or I might not be that easily led. Hmm.
I’m going to go and make a cake while I think about it. Hah.