Further to yesterday’s post (actually the day before yesterday’s, but in the same way I call it morning until I’ve had lunch, I call the day ‘today” even after midnight if I haven’t been to sleep), I had touched on the weekend my mum died here and here when I was talking about her dog a couple of years ago. Thank you for all your comments.
I haven’t planned my own funeral as such, although I have given it a fair bit of thought. If I pop off before the Sage, I suspect he might make my coffin himself from oak boards, as he did for Chester and Tilly (I think it’s a bit OTT for dogs, but he wanted to), but I’d really like a wicker coffin. Weeza found a website with lovely ones a few years ago and I bookmarked it, but when my last computer broke I lost the bookmarks and haven’t tracked down the company again yet. There are a few companies making English wicker coffins, but I particularly liked the shape of that one. My friend Bobbie’s father was buried in a woven coffin, I’m not sure of the material – seagrass perhaps? – which was imported from China – apparently, being a soft material, they can be stacked one inside another and are light, so it is counted as eco-friendly despite the distance travelled. On no account do I want a brick coffin, whatever Dave says.
I certainly want to be buried and not cremated. Although I’m not big on ceremony (there were three guests at my wedding, for instance), I recognise the importance of a funeral and a really low-key one brings a feeling of incompletion. I have the Bible reading I would like and a hymn, but there are several other options for hymns I’d like and I think it’s fair to give my family a choice. After all, they’re the ones listening to it.
I don’t really want to be talked about. It makes me uncomfortable. And there really isn’t much to say. Maybe I should suggest a couple of anecdotes and leave it at that. Choosing music for the start and finish is always a bit of a problem, unless you’ve got a really good organist. CDs often don’t sound right in a church. Last year, a funeral I played the organ for had the coffin leave to Bridge over Troubled Waters, which was actually very effective.
This could be quite jolly though, don’t you think? Not the best video, but I vastly enjoyed seeing the YOA a few years ago (I blogged it at the time) and I’ve got their CD.