Z is fortunate

I called on a friend this afternoon and I’m feeling very fortunate, at this moment, not to be in her situation.

I don’t want to say too much as it’s not fair to talk about someone behind their back – all I can say is that her mother-in-law had a nasty accident a few weeks back and, after a period in hospital, she’s staying with her son and his wife (who is my friend: the son, while charming, is not someone I know very well) and needs someone on hand all the time. This is my friend (whom I think I’ll call MF from now on). She’s had to give up her two part-time jobs and her voluntary work and is devoting herself entirely to her dear ma-in-law. However dear, you can imagine how draining this is.

To add to this, her husband is working on a really important project that means a lot to his company and he needs both her support and complete peace and tranquillity when he’s at home.

He has a sister, but she seems a bit casual about the whole thing. I don’t think anyone in her family has a clue how exhausting and draining the whole thing is for MF. She is normally very sociable and energetic and she’s stuck at home all the time with the company of one elderly lady, and she’s not sure, at present, what the future holds.

I was at the shop, making up a fruit basket as a small present for the invalid, when my mobile rang. It was B, asking me to help with interviews on Thursday morning. “I’ve got someone coming for lunch, I’d have to be home by noon at the latest”. “Oh, that’s all right,” said B airily,”the last interview is scheduled for 11 o’clock and if you make up your minds quite quickly you’ll be fine.”

Slight change of menu plan might be needed, and I’ll spend Wednesday slaving over the hot stove instead of Thursday morning. It’ll be fine. Interviews are fun (except those for headteachers, which are gruelling) and a fine friend is coming for lunch, so I have much to look forward to.

12 comments on “Z is fortunate

  1. Penny

    Yes, you are fortunate not to be in her situation, but she is fortunate to have you as a friend. For many friends, they feel fortunate as you do and give a little sympathy and sigh relief and move on from there. You care and it shows. You can make it easier for her just by being her friend. As I’m sure you do.

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  2. jAMiE

    I too know what it’s like to be a caregiver…it is exhausting and also depressing as Dandelion mentioned…i wish your friend well, she needs all the support she can get.

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  3. Dave

    The beans on toast comment, on re-reading, could be interpreted as cheekily suggesting that’s all Z is going to knock-up for her guest.

    What I meant was that any guest at z’s house would be delighted at whatever they were given to eat, and wouldn’t expect her to go to great lengths at such a busy time of year, when it is the company that counts.

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  4. Z

    And when someone can’t get about and is unwell, however outward-looking they normally are, they become completely self-centred, which can make it even harder for the carer.

    Dave, you are charm personified. And it is the company that counts.

    And thanks, everyone.

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