Z does whatever Z wants

In times like these, indulgence is justifiable. I bought a tub of delicious Monty Bojangles truffles from the deli, for Easter, and it was broached last night. Any part of the Easter weekend counts, as far as I’m concerned, this year.

It was the autumn after Russell died that changed my outlook. One night, in late September, I was chilly. I wanted to light the fire, but that seemed just plain wrong before October at least. And then I thought, what if I died in the night (which wasn’t likely, but who knows?)? I would have deprived myself of a small amount of pleasure for no reason at all and it would be too late to put it right. So I lit the fire. Over the course of the next year, I think I lit the fire at least once (sometimes every day, of course) in every month. I felt cold or cheerless, I put a match to some sticks. It did me good.

Having said that, the weather has been fabulous for the last few days and we haven’t needed to light the fire at all. But that’s beside the point.

8 comments on “Z does whatever Z wants

  1. Blue Witch

    It’s exactly the same with things that one keeps for ‘best’, isn’t it?

    We’re currently using our ‘best’ dinner service, amidst the renovation mess, as this was the easiest thing to grab in our rapid and unexpected dash north.

    This has previously been used perhaps just monthly over many many years. Might as well enjoy nice things daily as keep them in cupboards to go to charity shops or landfill when one is no longer here, eh?!

  2. Dharmabum

    I’ve always thought that I must meet you, and wished for it, Z. And I didn’t do it when I could (technically). And now we’re here.
    Right now, I’m just so very glad to read this. I wish you a Happy Easter, and all the good things in this world.

  3. Glenda

    Happy Easter, Z. Like BW said, I’m going to start using best for family everyday. And I certainly agree with your theory of self denial.

  4. Z Post author

    BW and Glenda, II keep nothing for best now and haven’t done for years. It’s the best china, best cutlery, best everything except glasses. They have to go in the dishwasher, so my few good glasses are kept for “best.” When my children were small, I had everyday and best china etc, but this hasn’t been the case for many years. And anyway, it’s no less durable just because it was expensive in the first place and it’ll be unfashionable when I die, so I might as well enjoy it.

    Dharmabum, I do still hope we will meet. We have been friends for a very long time. I value our friendship. I think the lockdown in India must be very difficult for many people. Last time I was in Chennai, I saw that many of the small dwellings by the roadside had vanished, so I supposed that apartments had been built further out from the city centre, But the traffic and the busyness were more than ever. I can’t imagine how people cope in the heat and the stress.

    1. Dharmabum

      I am touched, Z. Likewise, at the friendship being valued. Bless you.
      It is difficult for a lot of people. I’m among the more privileged, I guess. So just staying put at home, staying busy, staying sane 🙂

  5. Blue Witch

    I’ve found that supposedly non-dishwasher-safe crystal glasses are fine in the dishwasher, with Aldi Magnum tablets. Finish makes them go cloudy round the rim, despite what the manufacturers claim, but Magnum doesn’t (and Good Housekeeping Institute found that in their tests too).

    Gold and silver rims, however, can be removed in the dishwasher, so are no longer a problem after that!!!

    I’m sure you’ve got much older glasses than me though. All my ‘good’ ones are only 20th century (and mostly second half od same too).

    1. Z Post author

      Well, part of the reason is that glass is highly breakable. I do have some nice glasses that are old, but I don’t use them any more. I also have a few 18th century ones but of course they are never used.


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